It’s taken me just over three weeks to sit down and record this event. And the headline may be a little confusing. Because surely in 50+ years I’ve encountered people being homophobic. Oh absolutely. I couldn’t even begin to peg down the first time that I heard gay, queer, or the F-slur dropped as derogatory…
During the summer I was on something of a reading binge when it came to books that discussed queer topics. I’ve mentioned some or maybe all of them in my blog before, but I read three that in particular I found meaningful. Each was beneficial in its own way helping me understand my experience in…
This might be a messy topic in that I think I’m also simply catching up on what has been going on of late but a lot of it revolves around a sense of what I think is queer grief. First in the catch-up department, I had my “big” coming out moment. Now, I should probably…
I’ve mentioned before random memories coming back. Like my memory of Matthew Shepard’s death. That was a memory that I wouldn’t call so much banished because on the anniversary each year when I saw photos of him I would feel deep sadness. But I really didn’t let myself dwell on the part that event played…
For anyone who has known me in person, my body issues have been on public display for most of my life. In fact, I remember all the way back in kindergarten that I was Santa in our Christmas play because some of my classmates suggested I fit the role because I was fat. I look…
I have been very introspective even for me the past few months. I would guess due to having started therapy and talking about myself more than usual. And of course, I’d been writing about things here on my blog even before that. So last night I went to bed super early because I was just…
As I’ve mentioned in edits to a couple of old posts, I started therapy several weeks ago. It’s placing a strain on the old budget (run buy some art folks!), but I hit the point of realizing it was a must. Specifically my reason was that I have battled social anxiety most of my life….
In the past week I watched the new Wham! Documentary out on Netflix. That was an emotional trip. I’m not sure exactly when I became aware of Wham! Until recently I had all but forgotten that before MTV came to our cable line-up in my high school years, Nickelodeon had Nick Rocks which played some…
It was just about two months ago now that I sat down and wrote about my coming to terms with my queerness. Obviously, the journey reaches back much further than that. Part of it, I recently wrote about in my art blog where I shared some new work that I did for Pride Month 2023….
I had a strange revelation about being closeted the other day. Keeping in mind if you haven’t’ read the other posts in my series about accepting my own queerness, I’m only just now at 51 exiting the closet. I’ve been in there so long that it’s a way of life and honestly it’s still hard…
A theme that keeps coming up when I come out to friends has been that I feel I’ve spent my life holding space around me, probably in every sense. I’ve always been one of those people who has a strong sense of my personal space in a physical sense. Maybe a symptom, maybe who I…
This post was originally my third post on accepting my queerness. Those first two original posts are less relevant now and I just add extra complexity. This current post about my queer journey although not first chronologically is a good introduction if you want to know more. However this post does help understand some of…
I’ll be the first to admit that I probably have some degree of hypochondria. I think a lot of us do. I remember one of Mom’s friends who was in medicine who said that as a student every medical issue she read she briefly entertained the thought she had it. Still a few years ago…
When I was growing up, Mom talked about “Becky” so much that she was not unlike other members of the family that were gone but spoken of often. But Becky wasn’t family and she was, one assumed, alive and well somewhere. Becky had worked for my grandparents when Mom was little. And truthfully Becky wasn’t…
Not long ago, I began looking into a family story I had heard more than once as a child. There were variations on it but there was one part of the story that was consistent. And that was that there was a great, great, great uncle who died as a young child and who was…
Traditional Television Channel Surfing For Seniors In the past few years since my Dad’s death I’ve been working on cutting some cords. What these traditional services like a landline phone or cable TV cost these days is truly crazy. My parents have had cable TV since I was in Kindergarten and at the time those…
I’m sure other cord cutters have gotten here sooner than I did, but I knew there had to be a good way of connecting cell phone to landline and my research led me to the Panasonic KX-TGF575S. There are actually quite a few models of Panasonic that has what they refer to as “Link2Cell” technology….
While not one of the great mysteries of life, I’ve had a 90’s Album that off and on over the years, I’ve wondered about the band that recorded it. You see, despite having their album Land of Steady Habits, I had never heard of Big Train. I’m not sure exactly what year but probably either…
It feels like I’ve hit that place in life where I only come to my blog with sad news and I guess tonight is no different although surreal. I had logged on to Find A Grave to update a couple of family connections. Although I have long used the site to supplement what I knew…
Into every life, some rain must fall, I suppose, but having a windows 10 update stuck was a long, slow boil! A bit over a month ago, windows 10 seemed to be updating every day, or so I thought. It took me a bit to realize that something was up. Way too many updates. That’s…
I had read grumblings about Southeastern Grocer’s financial problems in the news recently, but was still a little stunned this week to read of the pending Harvey’s closing in our small town of Montezuma, Georgia. They are closing a pile of stores by the end of April as they enter bankruptcy. For me, it was…
A funny “ha-ha” story. When Dad bought his little used Ford truck – his last one. The handle that was meant to raise and lower the spare tire from the back was nowhere to be found. The manual said the handle was behind the bench seat and nothing was there. So he always kept the…
When you see the photo that goes with this, you may think I’m crazy, but bear with me as I think I found the best pillow for side sleepers – at least it is for me! I have always liked to sleep on my left side. Every so often I migrate over to my stomach…
On a recent post on my art blog, I mentioned having gotten a new XP-Pen Artist 16 display tablet – similar to the Wacom Cintiq range. So far I’ve quite liked it. The colors are great which was a real surprise. My main monitor is a 27 inch Benq (SW2700PT) which covers close to the…
It’s amazing after you’ve lost a loved how much worse some businesses can make the experience. Verizon is one example we’ve encountered in the months since my Dad’s death last December. It’s already a grinding experience having to call x company and y company and go through the same spiel over and over. When you’ve…
You ever have that feeling you’re cursed? I think I’ve had it off and on over the years. I’m sure many of us do. After the past year, it’s been an especially acute feeling. Nothing is small right now. Everything is major! I was setting off to Americus this afternoon to have my vision checked….
To be honest, I am chock full of pet peeves but one of them that gets dinged regularly is SEO experts contacting me with their gmail addresses. Never mind how unprofessional it feels to some. I can get past that. There are plenty of people who have contacted me in regards to projects they had…
Is it a gaming mouse or an artist’s mouse? I guess that’s in the eye of the beholder! The logic that led to my selection was that I needed something with precision. And if there’s any group of computer users that care about precision, it’s gamers. The end reason may be different. They want to…
It’s been over a year since I saw a sponsored post for Copromote and decided to give the service a try. It’s one of those apps that in theory is a beautiful idea. CoPromote is a network of creators dedicated to helping each other reach new and larger audiences. It hits all the right chords…
How to choose the right Android TV box was a subject I spent about a week researching last Fall. At the outset, I was looking for something that wouldn’t take up a lot of space but in theory would have an OS that my disabled father could operate. My reasoning for choosing Android was simply…
It’s been far too long since I’ve posted anything. It wasn’t for lack of moments of inspiration. I thought of plenty things to write about both involving the events of my life in 2016 as well as tidbits I wanted to share. And it never happened. As bad as the year started with Dad’s stroke…
For awhile now I’ve intended to write a post about my experience looking for a good web hosting service. I signed up with Hawkhost back in late November of 2015. And if life had cooperated, I’m sure I would have said more about that sooner. If your life is hectic, you can appreciate that on a good…
It’s been 8 weeks since Dad had his stroke. I think I could write a book if I talked about everything that’s happened since but it wouldn’t be a very entertaining read. So I’ll hit the highlights. Dad was at Grady a little over a week after his stroke. He probably would have been moved…
I posted this to my Facebook page tonight where the folks have only been wondering where I’ve been for a day or two. Any actual readers of my blog have probably wondered that for far longer. I need to do a real update sometime but the following at least hits the most important point in…
Keep it Simple Stupid is far from an original mantra, but one I digested last night. If you haven’t noticed, I’m in the midst of revamping my little garrison of websites. They had all gone somewhat stale and my motivation to change that was fleeting. Part of that was the desire to change the domain…
My how times change. There was a time when I would have pre-ordered any album coming from RCPM (Roger Clyne and the Peacemakers). It would have been waiting in the mailbox as close to the day it came out as possible. They are, after all, the only band that I’ve followed to out of state…